"She Would NEVER Leave Her Children!"

In almost EVERY missing person case I have researched referring to a missing mother, these words are spoken by someone close to the victim. Good mothers don't just up and leave their children without knowing that they are in a safe place and able to be taken care of. That is a fact.

Yes, there are some cases where there is an anomoly to this fact, but there are usually other circumstances involved that allow that the mother just walked away, leaving her children to fend for themselves. It's not the norm.

How many times have we heard this when faced with police and investigators saying the person probably just walked away to start a new life? How can anyone prove anything differently if there is no body and no hard evidence of foul play, but that mother is gone without a trace and she didn't even say goodbye to her children!

Every single one of the vanishing mother cases I have featured on this blog makes that statement again and again.... "She would NEVER leave her children!"  Many of the cases are mothers who have been abused by a partner or spouse.  Many of those are the last person to see the mother, and often come up with stories of her leaving after an argument, or running off with someone else; usually those stories are proven to be false, and it's likely that person had something to do with her disappearance.


Are You Prepared?


No one ever thinks it could happen to them. No one expects they will ever go missing. But what if you do? Are you prepared? Are your family members or close friends prepared to provide the authorities with enough vital information to begin an immediate search for you? And will they have enough vital information on hand at this time of crisis when this information is so important to have? Who better to supply my own vital information other than my own self?

A lot of police departments will say they require a waiting period before a report of a missing adult can be filed. There is no such law, it's only department policy and they must take the report! The problem with this is; we all know, the first 24 hours are the most vital in a search, therefore providing the authorities with a written request on your behalf to by-pass those requirements and begin a more immediate search may prove helpful. Already, some jurisdictions require a missing persons report be taken, but that doesn't mean an actual search is started until much later.


Now there is something YOU can do about it. 

If you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!The book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" by Susan Murphy Milano is the prescription that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a CD.

This book doesn't merely discuss when you should leave or why you should leave, it tells you HOW you should leave. The book has step-by-step instructions how to covertly make a plan, set-up a safe escape, deal with financial issues, and the paperwork. Susan even takes you line-by-line through the process, the forms, the legal issues...she takes you by the hand, and, believe me, when you are being terrorized and you are an basket case, you don't need vague ideas, you need specific instructions. TIME'S UP can save your life and your sanity. If you need to get out, get this book before you make a mistake that could be fatal. It is money well spent.

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.