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Wednesday, June 18, 2008

Ruth Sharon Hoffman


Ruth, (my Mother, Ruth Sharon Hoffman) was a wonderful woman, who got dealt a bad hand early off in life.

She took that bad hand and turned it into a royal flush. Her mom had 11 children and had to put most of them into foster care..

My mom was one of the first ones to get out of foster care and get a job. Then she met my dad and they instantly fell in love. They were married within two months. Then, they worked together getting her siblings out of foster care..

They took them (her siblings) one by one until they could find a job and an apartment. My mom has done so much good in her life..

Everyone loved her and she loved everyone. She was always helping someone, even people she did not know. This woman had a voice like an angel, and even taught herself how to play the piano..





This is only the beginning of the story written by a daughter who has been searching for her mother over 20 years. The questions are never answered and the hurt continues.

This case is probably the poster case for change in the way law enforcement handles missing adult cases.

When Ruth came home the night of June 29, 1986, battered and raped, she took a bath, changed clothes and told her daughter, Debbie, she was going for a walk. She was naturally upset by what happened to her and vowed not to let "them" get away with what they had done to her. That was the last time anyone has seen Ruth Sharon Hoffman.

Debbie did it all right, she reported her mother missing, only to be told to wait a week and come back. She followed the direction given to her by law enforcement to a tee. She called and called to learn of the progress in the case, until they told her to stop bugging them. She took it in stride and believed they were working on the investigation.

Debbie plastered her missing mother all over the internet. Message boards, blogs, Myspace pages, anywhere and everywhere she talked about her missing mother. She hired private detectives to help move the case along.

October, 2004....Debbie and her husband asked to see the file on Ruth Sharon Hoffman's investigation. There was no case file, there was no missing person's report, there was no listing in data bases. In 2005 she formally filed another missing person's report only to find the detective had been removed from the case and told to find a cold case detective.

This story is the story of everything gone wrong. Debbie has suffered not only in loosing her mother, but physically as well. She vowed to never stop looking and to bring this case to justice. She has suffered more setbacks than should be allowed in her quest, yet she, and now her daughter Tasha continue to keep the search alive.

The procedures and legislation for missing adults has to change and be enforced. Yes, those who are family members of the missing have to take on part of the responsibility of this, but ultimately it falls to our law enforcement agencies to follow the procedures correctly. Time is of the essence when someone goes missing and now it has been almost 22 years for Ruth Sharon Hoffman. She may be out there somewhere, but it's getting late.

13 comments:

januarysara said...

What a wonderful example of a truly loving daughter to all of us, is Debbie...if enough help it definitely seems a very real possibility...that Ruth Hoffman CAN be found...

Thanks for sharing this important case with us...

Maggie's Rose

Karrie said...

this reminds me so much of how my own mother's disappearance was handled. Unfortuneately, this isn't new. I applaud your efforts to bring closure to a compassionate and beautiful lady. You must have a heart like your mom. God bless your search and thanks for sharing. Anything at all I can do to support you, please let me know. There should be ways to stop LE from deciding who is valuable enough to look for and who isn't. RRSD told my granny that my mom "probably ran off with some guy." Without reason or cause they dismissed our entire family. MY heartfelt prayers go out to you and your family. Hebrews 11:1 I find helpful. Keep the faith.

januarysara said...

Karrie, I thought the same thing...and how much Ruth's daughter Debbie reminded me of you...since you are both such beautiful souls...

Maggie's Rose

www.peace4missing.ning.com

Maggie's Rose said...

"I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. And I will not let what I cannot do interfere with what I can do." - Edward Everett Hale

Maggie's Rose said...

Does anyone know if Debbie is okay? I continue to pray for their family...

Anonymous said...

I sent an email about your mom to 'The Locator' Troy Dunn. I highly recommend that you do too. Also, try asking members of websleuths to write him on behalf of you and your mother.

Debbie Monsinger said...

This is Debbie Molitor aka Monsinger Thank all of you for caring and yes I am trying to keep my health ok asnd they recently had me give DNA cuz they think they found my mom (dead) and there sending a sample off to be tested , will keep you all informed, Love you all

CarlosAndJen Weaver said...

Well they found her remains. The sad thing is that they found her in December of the year she went missing, but wasn't identified until August of 2013. Maybe L.E. knew something, which is why there was no case file on her to speak of, but there still should have been.

Delilah said...

Debbie, so good to hear from you and thank you for checking in here with information. Although not the results you would like, I hope that you may now find some peace in knowing.

Thank you CarlosAndJenWeaver as well. Thank God we now have better technology and hope this doesn't happen in other cases.

Debbie Monsinger said...

This is the final goodbye to my Beautiful Mother and now to find her killer or killers is my next mission if I have to do all the work by myself, and I truly thank all of you that helped me all these years, don't think I would have made it without alot of you, much love to all of you and hope and pray some laws get changed so no one has to ever go thru this nightmare on top of a nightmare...http://www.northwestohio.com/news/story.aspx?id=948436#.UkrkHD_479x

Debbie Monsinger said...

I sent my Mom to Tennessee at my cousins house to be buried next to her favorite baby brother Bobby Joe Hoffman and we are having her Memorial in Knoxville Tennessee next summer if anyone wants to attend plz get ahold of me thru email or on here my email is debbmhll@yahoo.com that is the email I used all threw these years for my Momma, and my cousin Shelly Hoffman and I had Matching necklaces made to put Mom's ashes in so we can always have her with us and plz send your prayers that this pain let's up a little bit and pray for the police that they do there Job and resolve alot of these case's!! our loved ones are not just a number there someones Mom, wife ex ex, with much love Deb.

Debbie Monsinger said...

Sending Birthday Wishes straight to Heaven My Beautiful Mother, Ruth Hoffman Missing Endangered God I Love You and Mom I am so sorry that I might not be able to bring you Justice for who killed you and for the wrong doing by the RR PD, I have tried to be your voice for so long it has been such a long road Mom I am exhausted but your my Mother and I will kick it in to second gear and find a way to get you Justice, today is your day Beautiful and I hope your up there dancing & singing like the Angel you have always been and those who knew you knew how special you were and how special you made everyone feel around you, you were for sure one great Mother, Auntie, Sister & Grandma & Friend to many, Mom this isn't goodbye this is just until we reunite in heaven someday soon I hope cuz my heart can't take much more so I am gonna pray for some help in bringing such a beautiful woman AT LEAST JUSTICE!!!! I think that's at least what someone owes you, God what I wouldn't do to see your beautiful smile and those beautiful dimples wow could you ever light up a room, we are all gonna meet next year to your final resting place next to your baby brother and that's when I will say my final goodbye but Mom I can't just yet this is tearing my heart out and I don't really think people understand how bad, you were/are my EVERYTHING!!! Love your Daughter Always
— with Ruth Hoffman Missing Endangered.

Anonymous said...

Have you thought about contacting TNT and having her story told on the show "Cold Justice"?

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